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[klisme]

ok. I applied for a dept head job after being home for three years (stayed home when my little girl was born). Now I am not sure if I sure take the job if I get it. I feel like I should do what I planed and stay home and work part time until her going to school full time. can anyone help?

[zoyajoy]

Klisme,
Stay home with your little one for as long as possible. You will never regret it!
My :twocents:, zoyajoy

[GirlyGirl]

Hi Klisme. What was your motivation for applying for the position? I have never considered being a stay-at-home Mom just because of my personality. I am not cut out to be at home all day with no adult interaction. I dont believe my children have suffered as I was fortunate to have my Mom to watch them until I got home. And I now work from home, so I am here when they leave for school and when they get home. And, I always made sure they knew they were my priority. My SIL chose to be a stay-at-home Mom until her first child turned 3. Then she went back to work. In her words, "I just can't take it anymore."

IMHO - I have great respect for SAH Mom's and I have great respect for those of us who balance work and motherhood and seem to do well with both. There are benefits to both choices. Only you can decide what is best for you and your children.

If you are craving adult interaction...or just need to get out of the house...maybe there are some women's groups, play groups, even a gym that you can become a member of and still be home with your children. And a part-time job sounds like a good idea too. I'll be thinking of you as you make your decisions. Please keep us posted.

[klisme]

I too have my mom who can watch she but both my mom and dad smoke. Jenni gets sick when she is around smoke but they wont stop smoking when she is around. i do want to work but i am thinking for part time or at home for now. When I went to the interview My hubby was not work but as soon as I got home the phone was ringing off the hook for him to work. I may try working for the summer and see how it goes...

[LoveRainbows]

Hi Klisme! :)
If you don't need the money badly, I would say stay home.If you need a little extra part time sounds good.I went to work right away with my first born and it was so hard.I know what you mean about the smoking.My oldest has asthma since he was a small baby.So many people in my family smoke.I was always fighting with them not to smoke around my child.Even when they would see me giving him an inhaler, it would till seem not to bother them.It would hurt my feelings so bad.I could never stay at family gatherings for long for this reason.I say if you can afford it stay home and raise your child for as long as you can.