Help With Husbands Moods

[nifty fifty]

I have been married to my husband for alomost 22 years. We have had our ups and downs. We are empty nesters now and in our 50's. My DH is a diabetic and has mood swings, but not like this. We have always gone to church together and been in the choir and active there. But for the past few months he will go anymore. He is down on everything,life in general. He is going bald on top, his eyesight in one eye is going because of his sickness. Don't mean to be so long, but just want the prayers of those who maybe have been through this maybe. He still loves me and said it isn't me, he just doesn't care about anything any more.He is a Christain. His depressing moods has began to effect me. Help!!!!

[gemsab]

Sweetie, Your DH sounds depressed and needs to first go to his doctor for a good physical and make sure he tells him exactly how he feels. He may need an anti-depressant. He should also find someone like maybe his Pastor that he trusts and can talk to. He probably sees himself in a bad place right now because of his illness, his getting older and becoming an emptynester all at the same time. He needs to know that there is a lot of life to live and he should try and enjoy it to the best of his ability. I wish you both much luck.......please make sure he sees someone soon. Hang in there hun!

Emily :hug: s

[txgurl]

Hi,

I just wanted to let you know I will be glad to say prayers for you and your DH. It is hard being empty nesters, getting older, getting sick ,and dealing with it all. My MIL had a DH who was ill with diabetes and bi-polar and prayer and getting him to the dr for meds got her through it.

You are not alone, so hang in there, pray and know there is help out there for him .

Sue

[jasper]

((((Sue)))) sending you prayers and :hug:s

Your post is one I could have written myself.

Diabetes has so many horrible side effects, my DH has had lots of problems like yours, nearly losing his foot, near fatal blood poisoning ( he spent a month in hospital each time for these) that played havoc with his moods.
We have a good marriage but like any, ups and downs, it gets hard but when it gets really hard I "try" and imagine how hard it is for him with his body letting him down ( know the feeling myself with all my gyn issues over 15 years)
Emily made a good suggestion , get him off to the Dr, I have tried to convince my DH to think about meds when he gets really down but he seems to pull himself back up.

Take care of yourself, the last few years I've made a bigger effort to get healthier myself, for my own wellbeing but also I know I need to stay strong for him.