Co-worker Really Gets Under My Skin

[LoveRainbows]

Have you ever had a co-worker just really get under your skin?

I mean everytime I even see this woman I just want to rip her hair out. :mad: She makes me just want to be so evil and mean. I really hate that she brings that out in me. I really try and fight my feelings. I have to pray everytime I go into work for myself to remain happy and positive.

This woman has always picked out someone to be her victim ever since I've worked there. She has gotten a few people fired because she starts so much trouble. For over a year now I've been her victim.

We use to be friends, not close friends but friendly. Then oneday she just decided she didn't like me anymore. I tried really hard to find out why and talk it out because I didn't want any problems with this woman but she refused to talk to me.

She started making all kinds of problems for me at work. Trying to get me in trouble with my supervisor, getting other people in management to dislike me, spreading lies about me, all kinds of stuff. When she doesn't like someone she goes full force and doesn't let up.

One reason I think is because she's so unhappy in her own life, she likes to cause misery in other peoples life. From what I know of her when we use to talk she really doesn't have much of a life outside of work. Her & her DH are always having problems too.

I have tried soooooo hard to get back on her good side so many times. I always thought you catch more flies with honey than you do vinager. I even asked if we could start fresh and just be good co-workers. She agreed, but didn't keep up with the deal. I still always gave her a smile and a hello whenever we passed each other.

Even tried several times to make small talk with her. I'm just so fed up and lately I've just had it. When I pass her now I don't even look at her. I'd like to give her a dirty look and maybe a piece of my mind. :argue:

I know that won't help and it would most likely make things worse for me. I just hate feeling like this, she really makes my stomach turn. I really could just join in and try to make things worse for her. I know that two wrongs don't make a right and I really don't want to sink down to her level. She makes it really hard and everytime I see her I just want to scream.

Some other co-workers have told me she's just jealous because she sees that I talk to everyone and try to get along with poeple. I try my best to be happy and count my blessings and just laugh alot and enjoy life.

I really try hard not to let her get to me, but I just can't help it. Why can't I just act like she doesn't exit? I can be so happy and full of joy then I see her and it just brings me down. I try my best to stay away from her but we are co-workers so I have to see her sometimes. Will I ever have peace with this person? *pray*

[Kate]

I know how you feel sometimes. There is one person in my office that is sometimes your friend and sometimes your enemy. I just ignore it the best I can even though it really bothers me.

I think it was big of you to approach her and agree to get along. I don't know what to say about dealing with people like this. It makes the work day awkward. Maybe, the next time she does something, call her on it and ask what is up?

Good luck with it all. And maybe it is best to just act like she isn't there, if you can. I know it's easier said than done. But I do sympathize with you!

[100792]

I have a co-worker that I have problems with also.

Who would think it is difficult to order a simple office supply, paperclip holder. She makes a huge deal of the cost and do you really need it. Just recently I tried to order a ballpoint pen, what an ordeal. I took it off of the supply list and waited until the next week when she was gone and had her back up person order it. I am doing it again this week with calendars for 2007.

The other thing is she refuses to answer the phone, because her work is so detailed she can not deviate from her work to answer the phone. She is in accounts payable. So I asked her one time if her paying bills was more detailed than me doing payroll? I still have to answer the phone when I am doing payroll. I think that the both tasks are just as important and that she can answer the phones also.

Luckily for me, all of the office thinks the same of her. We all like her, it is just her way of working that we have problems with.

I truely understand how you feel about your co-worker and wish I could offer suggestions. I just interact with my co-worker when necessary. Other than that I keep to myself and other co-workers.

[Marian Paroo]

Maybe I should shut up and be thankful.

My most annoying coworker is a Pollyanna type with a voice that is a combination of Amber Frye and Sweeky Fromme.