jealousy & flirty husband

[LoveRainbows]

Sometimes my husband just makes me crazy.I remember being really jealous when I was a teenager. Now I find myself acting like that again and it drives me nuts. My husband has always been the flirty tpye, but lately it seems to be bothering me more. I don't know if it's because I'm getting older and don't feel as sexy anymore. Or I just had a hyster last yr. and maybe my hormones are out of wack. It as never bother me so much as when I was a teenager. Then I was young and didn't know much. Now I'm a grown married woman with two young sons. What's up with me? Anyone else ever felt this way? Before it never really bother me so much. Now when I see him being all flirty and women responding to him it drives me nuts. I know I'm sounding childish. I just wish I'd get over this. Maybe because I had a hyster I feel like less of a woman and just don't feel sexy anymore. :mad:

[lilorphann]

Hi LoveRainbows,
Sorry you're feeling alittle overwhelmed with emotions. I personally have not had to deal with feeling jealous of my hubby flirting, but I know he does. I own a business that has many young, beautiful girls coming in all the time and sometimes my hubby is working and he is flirty, but I trust him and know that it is all in fun and that being jealous would only mean I am reading something into it that does not exist.

If you are that bothered by your hubby's flirting then try talking to him and letting him know how you feel, or arrange a date for just the two or you to remind him why he fell in love and married you. If his flirting is totally innocent then he will understand if you talk to him about it.

[Mori]

My husband is also the flirty type & it used to drive me crazy :argue: ... until I finally realized that he only did it for fun & that it meant nothing! Now I sometimes laugh along when he tells me some of his silly lines. :rofl: Sometimes it's hard to tell if their flirting is innocent, but most of the time it's a way of "feeding" their male ego. :rolleyes:

[toriibearsmom]

I too have a very flirty husband. I am 11 years younger than him and he tends to like younger women. It's really hard because he is in the military and is constantly away and I'm left in a foriegn country all alone with nothing to do but dwell on what he's doing. Right now he's been gone for a month and everytime I get a chance to talk to him there are girls giggling in the back ground. I wasn't this way before my hyster and I too wonder if it's just my hormones making me crazy.

[Tkdista]

Sometimes my husband just makes me crazy.I remember being really jealous when I was a teenager. Now I find myself acting like that again and it drives me nuts. My husband has always been the flirty tpye, but lately it seems to be bothering me more. I don't know if it's because I'm getting older and don't feel as sexy anymore. Or I just had a hyster last yr. and maybe my hormones are out of wack. It as never bother me so much as when I was a teenager. Then I was young and didn't know much. Now I'm a grown married woman with two young sons. What's up with me? Anyone else ever felt this way? Before it never really bother me so much. Now when I see him being all flirty and women responding to him it drives me nuts. I know I'm sounding childish. I just wish I'd get over this. Maybe because I had a hyster I feel like less of a woman and just don't feel sexy anymore. :mad:
Hi LoveRainbows,

I know it sounds wierd, but my S.O. and I have learned to have a lot of fun flirting together with others. We have defiite guidelines about what the other person will permit and not permit (no kissing, hugging ok, no sex, no foreplay, no private "dates," etc. - in other words, just harmless flirting!).

We have a lot of fun with it and have found that we can openly chat about it and feel much more secure together, realizing that we love each other very much, but flirting is kind of fun and since we do it together and have defined boundaries with a non-disputable veto option, we can both feel a wonderful sense of self-esteem about it.

One thing - we NEVER EVER will even discuss meeting anyone in a private setting at all. We are just a couple at an event having fun together. We CLEARLY have defined our boundaries and EVERYTHING about it is up for discussion- including feelings of jealousy and low self-esteem.

Just a thought...

Tk

[LuvMaui]

My husband isn't even the flirty type and I can get jealous. I know my jealousy is all within me. It really has nothing to do with him.

Ask yourself this question: Do you REALLY think your husband would want anyone beside you??? If the answer is yes... You need to have a talk with him about your concerns. If the answer is no, then when those jealous feelings come along go up to him and tell him you need a big hug and some lovin'.

That's what I would do :)

[YellowRoseTex]

In our ealier days, dh and I were both very jealous. But as our relationship has developed that is no longer the case. We both know we are together and trust each other, so jealousy isn't really an issue. Occassionally I think we both experience twinges of it, but we both know that we are committed to each other so it's really not an issue.

[celtictigeress]

LuvMaui gave some very good advice. I have a flirty husband too...only he doesn't know that's what he's doing. Amazingly, as good looking as he is, he doesn't think of himself that way. He's completely obtuse about it, and from what his friends tell me he's always been like this. When he was single girls would throw themselves at him (even in pairs!) and he just wouldn't get it. They'd walk away shaking their heads. He's naturally outgoing, and this attracts women to him. It used to bother me tremendously...because I didn't see how someone as wonderful as him could want someone like me. My own insecurities were causing my jealousy. Once I realized that I decided that I had to trust him to keep his vows. It isn't easy, especially when I'm feeling unattractive or otherwise unworthy of being loved, but I work at it. It's only fair to both of us.

[latinagal]

I know we all hate having flirty husbands, my husband goes to paramedic school and i know that there are many young fit girls there and yes I do get jealous but i just say to myself who does he call on his break ( I know its me because im always checking online LOL) and who does he come home to, men are just very flirty and i dont let it bother me to much.

[Hope50]

LoveRainbows,
My husband and I have been married for almost 28 years. I spent the first 15 years feeling insecure and I didn't have a lot of faith in him. It didn't help that some girls practically drooled over him and he would smile. I talked to him often, and finally I think that he understood. I also think that time mellowed him out. Talk to your husband and tell him what exactly he is doing that is making you jealous. I just had a hysterectomy about 14 days ago, but I'm on HRT so I don't feel so bad. Could it be that your hormones are a little out of kilter? That can happen. In either case, an open communication with your husband is an absolute must. Take care and I'll be thinking of you.
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