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thediamondlady
12-20-2007, 10:36 AM
It is always hard to make new friends -- but it seems as we get older it is harder.

My husband and I have lived int he great northwest for 5 years. While we have made some wonderful friends -- we want ot expand our horizons.

i have girl friends from work -- and we try to get together at least once a month. But since 2 ladies do not have spouses -- we do just the girl thing -- which is really nice.

The guys that my husband works with are ok -- but we really have nothing in common with them and after him spending 78 hours a week with them -- he does not want to socialize with them.
We have been married for 9 years in Jan.

We do not have kids at home -- so you could call us empty nesters -- but we are not of retirement age either.

We run into this at our church also -- we kind of fall into the new marriage groups -- but yet not as we are both on second marriages and not having to deal with things that newly married couples deal with. we are not having kids -- so that is not a group that we fall into -- we are not ready for retirement or ready to put our parents into nursing homes.

we just fall into the middle.

We used to go dancing when we were dating-- but since the move to the norht west -- we have not found a place we like.

We totally enjoy each others company -- so that is not the problem.

We are trying to find new ways to meet people and find stuff to do. But DH works 78 hours a week at his job -- i work 2 jobs -- so we are busy all the time.


We belong to a hot air balloon club -- a motorcycle club -- we do things at church -- but find that we do not have much in common outside of those groups.


how do you find places and things to do that there are other people?

afsgtyfe
12-22-2007, 05:34 PM
This is a difficult one for us also....
Jeff and I don't often fit in with other parents our age, because we waited until we were in our late 20's before we had Randa. So, most of the people who are our age have children who are 'grown-up' in their mid/late teens.

At church, we haven't really found a niche we fit in either.

Since we move every few years with Jeff's job, it has happened several times that once we do make friends or establish a relationship with another couple we share common ground with, we have to move or they do.

We had a great relationship with another couple when we lived in Missouri..it started with our daughters (who were the same age) becoming best friends, then we started having weekly friday night dinners/family game nights alternating homes every week.
Then, Jeff and Bob both got orders (We're in the military) they moved overseas to England, and we moved here to Colorado.

It also doesn't help that we are both pretty much 'homebodies'. We kinda stick to home, and don't make an effort to socialize.

Paula