Feeling used

[marie01702]

A very good friend of mine for 7 years recently has stopped all contact with me without out any explanation. It hurts a lot. My DH and I have been there for him for $$ and support. I emailed him, left messages for him but he's not responding. Ifeel so used. Anyone else ever go through something like this?

[KADAMAY]

i HAVE I HAD A REALLY GREAT GIRLFRIEN SHE GOT A NEW BOYFRIEND AND POOF SHE WAS GONE UNLESS THEY WERE FIGHTING AND SHE NEEDED A PLACE TO STAY. I KNOW IT SUCKS BUT LET YOUR FRIEND WORK THINGS OUT. MAYBE SEND AN EMAIL JUST TO KNOW YOUR THERE IF NEEDED.

[royallady]

Are you sure that he is ok... maybe something is up with him and needs some time to sort out. Send him an email and let him know you are worrried.

[babsRN]

Yeah, it's a bit of a jump to just assume the worst. Maybe he's dealing with something, maybe he feels ashamed of something, maybe he's embarrassed about having to accept assistance in the past. It's a good time to sit down and evaluate the situation as objectively as possible. Was something said or done on either side of the fence to break the contact? Has he been approached in a way that he might interpret as being condescending whether it was meant that way or not? Was there an argument before contact was broken? Has just been completely overwhelmingly busy? Maybe he's dealing with a jealous woman and can't contact you because of that? Maybe he just wants to be left alone for awhile? With the information provided it seems that there is some missing information that could explain it for you. But if you truly consider him to be a friend, love and accept him as the person that he is and never give up on him.

[YellowRoseTex]

The girl that was the maid of honor at my wedding did something similiar. She just quit calling. After dh and I comforted and took care of her after she and her boyfriend split up. She ended up calling again when she was in trouble and we went running to help only to be dumped once again. That was it for me. I heard some outrageous things later about why she quit calling, but I won't go into that here. All you can do, is be a friend, don't push it and if the friendship is onesided than it's not worth it. Friendship goes two ways, both parties have to give and take. When one only takes, it usually does not work out and it's not a real friendship.

Is this the first time something like this has happened? Do you know anyone who spends time with him? Perhaps if he doesn't respond you could ask another friend if they've heard from him.