showme girl
02-13-2006, 08:59 PM
I'm married happily for 20 years! My husband is the best.
About a year ago an old boyfriend moved to my state. We had talked and exchanged Christmas cards off and on but not seen each other in 25 years! He lives 3 hours from here. His sister lives here near me, but I don't know her and he comes to town on occasion. We chatted a few times by phone and email. We had a bunch of things in common, from the same area, went to the same college, same backgrounds, loss of parents, lived in the same towns at different times and now right here together again.
I though it would be fun to talk. I talk to both male and female friends I've know since kindergarten. I though we both were mature adults. Well, from the beginning, I should have known he was up to no good. He used my recent hysterectomy, no children, birthday blues and just feeling low to try and get under my skin. He said he would just be there for me to talk.
At the time, my husband was very busy at work and I was feeling neglected. At first it was flattering until things went from bad to worse and he even suggested we meet privately sometime. I said no and it would never happen--I told him I was even uncomfortable talking that way. Of course, then came he never meant to make me uncomfortable, yada, yada.....He always had all the right answers.
He was divorced for 5 years from a 10 year marriage. Could not do anything but badmouth his ex. Though he had just moved here, he already had several women on a string.
He contacted me fairly frequently then not at all. Then back again when he was having some troubles with his latest conquest. I finally had enough of his innuendos and wrote a scathing email telling him all of his bad points and how he hadn't changed a bit in 25 years (it was not a complement)!
Well, talk about a stroke....he went bizerk! He knew I was spot on with everything and he couldn't handle it. I wish I had said these things 25 years ago. He told me to never contact him again.
Problem is, I can't stop thinking about him. Every day!
What is my problem??? I love my husband, would NEVER cheat on him and he the same with me.
Help......I just need someone else to tell me what I already know. Please no holds barred!
About a year ago an old boyfriend moved to my state. We had talked and exchanged Christmas cards off and on but not seen each other in 25 years! He lives 3 hours from here. His sister lives here near me, but I don't know her and he comes to town on occasion. We chatted a few times by phone and email. We had a bunch of things in common, from the same area, went to the same college, same backgrounds, loss of parents, lived in the same towns at different times and now right here together again.
I though it would be fun to talk. I talk to both male and female friends I've know since kindergarten. I though we both were mature adults. Well, from the beginning, I should have known he was up to no good. He used my recent hysterectomy, no children, birthday blues and just feeling low to try and get under my skin. He said he would just be there for me to talk.
At the time, my husband was very busy at work and I was feeling neglected. At first it was flattering until things went from bad to worse and he even suggested we meet privately sometime. I said no and it would never happen--I told him I was even uncomfortable talking that way. Of course, then came he never meant to make me uncomfortable, yada, yada.....He always had all the right answers.
He was divorced for 5 years from a 10 year marriage. Could not do anything but badmouth his ex. Though he had just moved here, he already had several women on a string.
He contacted me fairly frequently then not at all. Then back again when he was having some troubles with his latest conquest. I finally had enough of his innuendos and wrote a scathing email telling him all of his bad points and how he hadn't changed a bit in 25 years (it was not a complement)!
Well, talk about a stroke....he went bizerk! He knew I was spot on with everything and he couldn't handle it. I wish I had said these things 25 years ago. He told me to never contact him again.
Problem is, I can't stop thinking about him. Every day!
What is my problem??? I love my husband, would NEVER cheat on him and he the same with me.
Help......I just need someone else to tell me what I already know. Please no holds barred!