By Lindsey Meier
Get Your Guy Smiley
Few things can make a woman happier than knowing that she is pleasing to her husband. As a wife, a woman wants her love to be the best thing that ever happened to her beloved. While there are times when you may wish he would just decide to be happy and stay that way, without any effort on your part, people don't work that way. In reality, a spouse's happiness is very much dependent on the actions and attitudes of his or her partner. You may not be able to change your husband, but you can do things that will give him cause to be happy, and help him to become his best. By learning what your husband's needs are and trying to meet them, you can truly become his greatest reason to smile.
Be A Happy Girl
Living with a bitter malcontent instead of with the sweetheart he married can drive a man away like nothing else. So be a happy girl. As Martina Mcbride's “Happy Girl” song says,
Everybody knows
That the sweetest thing you’ll ever see
In the whole wide world
Is a happy girl.
Be the sweetest thing that he's ever seen by being happy. Content yourself and learn to encourage yourself even when you have plenty to complain about. Focusing on pleasing your husband instead of on what's displeasing to yourself can make a major difference. Just like you wish he'd be happy, he would love for you to have a cheerful disposition, and when life gets tough, he needs your encouragement.
What A Man Wants
Your husband is unique and special, but every man has basic needs that he should be relying on his wife to meet. One of the main needs of every man is for domestic support. He may be physically capable of washing clothes and dishes, cooking, and grocery shopping, but with all the stress of trying to survive the dog-eat-dog world, he needs your help.
Cooking delicious meals has long been a valued method for keeping men happy. Learn to prepare your husband's favorite foods, and treat him to dinners cooked with love and packed with nutrition. Unlike restaurant fare or frozen dinners, your cooking can meet his emotional hungers and increase his health, making him so much happier.
Promote your husband's sense of peace by creating a relaxing atmosphere in the home. For many, cleaning and organizing are the most difficult tasks of life, especially since the work is never done. Yet, a clean home can greatly improve a husband's outlook on life by reducing stress. Even if you can't manage to have everything in it's place all of the time, seeing that you are trying to keep the house nice for him can cheer your husband up. Be careful not to go overboard with the cleaning though. Sometimes a woman is more apt to be neat and orderly than her husband is, leaving him feeling out of place in a perfectly sterile environment. If your husband needs a little bit of mess in his life, allow him a space of his own that he knows he can be messy at without you messing up his mess.
Meeting a husband's physical needs always includes caring for him sexually. Even if he has a perfect chef and housekeeper for a wife, a man still needs the closeness of physical intimacy. Learning to please your husband romantically takes practice, and practice may be all he really wants. Save some energy for him at the end of the day, even if it means abandoning a sink full of dishes and leaving emails unanswered.
Your Husband's Best Friend
In the rush of everyday life, the companionship between a husband and his wife can get pushed aside. Engaging in a meaningful friendship with your husband takes more effort in marriage than it did when you were newly-wooed. Set aside time to focus on what he likes to do. Whether it means playing video games, watching bloody war movies, going hunting, or learning the rules of football, doing what he enjoys will bless the socks off your dear one. Let him spend time with the guys, but be sure that you stay his very closest friend and confidant by learning to do and enjoy his favorite leisure activities.
Take A Load Off His Shoulders
Stress is the number one reason a husband's satisfaction with life suffers. If you can take some of the weighty responsibilities off his shoulders, you may be able to increase his lifespan as well as cheer him up. Relieve him of some of his duties every now and then. If he usually takes the trash out, writes the bills, or cleans the car, give him a break. Use your free time to ease his stress by doing the little things that stack up and make life difficult. If money problems are stressing him out, be sure not to add to the problem with unnecessary expenditures. He will surely thank you.
Enjoy Your Mate
Care for your husband, have fun with your husband, and have patience with him when he isn't feeling like he's on top of the world. Knowing that you love being his wife and appreciate the good things he does for your family can lift his spirits.
Lindsey Meier lives in Texas with the love of her life and their two children. Between diaper changing and dish-washing she enjoys writing, reading and art. Lindsey and her husband aim to live productively and purposefully but don't mind having a little fun along the way.
